A Psychomagic Act That Sets Us Free
Last week, I found myself deeply immersed in introspection, focusing on my personal project, while also tuning into my body and emotions. There's one thing in particular that has been on my mind and hasn't let go of me, so I want to share it here on my blog. It’s about the powerful concept of Acceptance…
A Time of Paralysis and Numbness
I want to share a moment from my life when I felt utterly paralyzed, frozen in time, and completely numb.
Eleven years ago, I went through a difficult breakup. It was a painful process, one I never expected to end the way it did. I left my home and moved back in with my parents, into my old bedroom. During those months, I locked myself away in that room, working nonstop. It became my way of numbing myself from the reality I was facing—while making money, yes, but mostly escaping the need to confront the outside world.
The Struggle of Facing Reality
I say "escaping" because, at that time, facing the world felt unbearable. Everyone around me—my friends, my family—was moving forward with their lives. They were getting married, having children, building families. And there I was, feeling isolated, as if no one could understand what I was going through.
It was a sharp contrast. Everyone else was creating new life, while I was watching mine fall apart.
A Wake-Up Call
This went on for months. I’m lucky in that my emotional processes are intense but quick to move through, or so I’ve been told by my therapists. But today, I want to tell you about one moment in particular that became the catalyst for my healing.
One day, my cousin walked into my room. She saw me working, lost in my laptop as usual. Then, her eyes shifted to the floor, where she noticed my suitcase. It had been there, untouched, for months. I had grown used to dressing from it and then throwing everything back in, leaving it packed just as it had been when I first arrived.
A Psychomagic Act of Acceptance
I can still picture her gaze, moving back and forth between me and the suitcase. She looked at me intensely, then at the suitcase again, and said, “Enough. This ends today.”
I didn’t understand at first, but before I could react, she dropped to the floor and started unpacking everything. Watching her, I began to sob uncontrollably. She said, “You can’t live like this anymore. It’s time to accept that you’re here now.”
Looking back, I now see that this was a psychomagic act—a powerful, symbolic gesture from my cousin that helped me break free. It was her way of showing me the importance of accepting my reality, and that moment was the turning point that allowed me to move forward.
The Power of Acceptance
Up until that point, I had been stuck in a life that was no longer mine. I was frozen, trapped in a suspended state between two worlds—one that no longer existed and one I hadn’t yet stepped into.
But after that day, I started living again. I began going out, reconnecting with friends, and eventually started my journey as a digital nomad—first traveling through different cities within my country, and then abroad.
Accepting the Present to Move Forward
Looking back now, I can see how crucial it was to accept my situation as it was in order to move forward. Because, if I’m being honest, I was still hoping that my old life would return. I was waiting for things to go back to how they were, even though that life had been causing me so much pain. It doesn’t make sense, but that’s where I was.
What Acceptance Truly Means
Acceptance is not about passively resigning yourself to your circumstances. It’s about recognizing your present reality and making a conscious choice to move forward. When we allow ourselves to accept, we release the internal resistance that holds us back and open up the possibility to transform our reality from a place of peace and balance.
It’s through acceptance that we let go of the past’s weight and start focusing on building a future filled with opportunities and growth.
The Freedom of Authenticity
When we accept ourselves and our circumstances, we gain the freedom to be our true selves. We allow ourselves to flow with life instead of constantly fighting against it. This acceptance creates a deep connection with ourselves and the world around us.
A Question for You
So, let me ask you: In what areas of your life are you resisting change? How could practicing acceptance help you? How does it feel to allow yourself to accept things as they are, without judgment? Does that acceptance bring you a sense of peace and freedom?
A Final Thought
If you're reading this, I hope it resonates with you. I hope that whatever it is that you need to accept, you can now embrace with open arms and move forward with your life. Because, as I learned, accepting that my old life had fallen apart and that I had nothing left was the very thing that gave me the chance to rebuild a life that was truly aligned with my authentic self.