I Recognize Your Light, Your Shadow, and Your Value
They say today is the day of love, but I like to think it should be every day…
Recognizing Your Light
When you woke up today, you probably looked at yourself in the mirror, right? But did you take a moment to truly contemplate yourself? Did you connect with your gaze? Did you thank yourself for being the person you are today?
Did you thank the cells of your body for working throughout the day? Or thank your heart for continuously beating, second after second? And what about your feet? They carry the weight of your entire body and take you everywhere without complaining.
How often do we overlook these things? Most of the time, we focus more on the outside than the inside, searching for things that satisfy us, or for someone who will make us feel loved, accompanied, and constantly show us affection.
The Challenge of Self-Love
But how difficult it is to stand in front of the mirror and look into my own eyes for 10 minutes… have you tried it? The first time I did it, I cried, I felt uncomfortable, I looked away, criticized the flaws I saw, and thought about everything else I wasn't doing.
Today, I do it every day—when I wake up, before going to bed, and in moments when I doubt myself, when I'm sad or angry, or when I'm struggling and don't know exactly why. And far from feeling the discomfort of that first time, what I feel now is peace in my heart, harmony, and even joy in connecting with myself in this way. It has become a guide during moments of uncertainty.
Love Starts Within
Love begins from within and radiates outward. I cannot attract anything into my life that I don’t already hold inside or haven’t yet discovered. The quantum field responds to vibration and will return to me whatever I give myself.
A Practice of Self-Appreciation
Today, I invite you to pamper yourself in some way, to look at yourself in the mirror and repeat, “I recognize your light, your shadow, and your value.” Thank yourself for everything you are, everything you've experienced, and all the strength and courage you've had—even the weakness or fear. Embrace them, and thank yourself for moving forward despite it all.
You might be surprised. The more you love, appreciate, and recognize yourself, the more the world around you will reflect that.
What is Love?
I’ve had many conversations about this, not only with friends but also with my clients. Often, conflicts in relationships arise because we have different ways of loving, and we expect others to love us in the same way.
I will never forget my friend Xu, who one day sat across from me at home and said, "I understand now, it’s not that my mom doesn’t love me, it’s that she loves me differently." That stuck with me. How often do we feel hurt because the person we care about doesn’t hug us, kiss us, or tell us “I love you”? And we stay stuck there, focused only on that, without seeing things from another angle?
Different Ways of Loving
There are many ways to love, and each person, based on what they received in childhood, will love in the way they learned. Xu’s mother never said "I love you" or hugged her, but she did wait for her every day with a hot meal on the table, washed and ironed her clothes, and asked about her day. Could it be that this woman never received a hug or kiss to learn how to give one? These gestures are also ways of loving, and we often overlook them.
Reflecting on Our Love
Today, instead of going out and consuming, expecting others to show us affection, I invite you to reflect on your own way of loving. Has this ever happened to you? How might that person have loved you in a way you didn’t recognize? Could it be possible for me to teach the other person my way of loving, instead of waiting and getting frustrated?
Let’s Honor Our Love
Today, let's simply honor this feeling and share it with the world... ❣️
Happy Love Day ❤️🔥